10 Things Women Need to Stop Apologizing For
Women have a tendency to apologize far too much in their day-to-day lives.
Too often, we waste our breath saying we’re sorry for things that don’t warrant having to ask for forgiveness. Whether we do it because we think it’s polite or we fear others’ judging eyes, it’s not time well spent.
Let’s stop apologizing for things we really don’t need to, and start being more empowered in the way we communicate.
So, once and for all, turn your many sorrys into one big “sorry I’m not sorry.”
Here Are 10 Things Women Need to Stop Apologizing For:
1. Stop apologizing for what you eat
You can still be a yogi and eat meat. You can still be a health expert and crave a soda. You can still be a health and wellness aficionado and scarf down some pizza.
Life is all about balance and sometimes that means enjoying a dessert or indulging in a delicious dish that’s loaded with calories. So what if you’re not vegan or not gluten free. Make the food choices that work for you and don’t apologize for it.
2. Stop apologizing for being assertive
We need to stand up and speak our truth! We need to defend ourselves, and not be afraid to be bold, direct, and matter-of-fact when we do it. Often in the professional world, we see the double standard of assertive men being “go getters” but assertive women being “bitches.”
Umm . . . no. Be assertive, say what you need to say, and don’t apologize for it.
3. Stop apologizing for the size, shape, or color of your body
One size does not fit all in the world of health and wellness. Eating well, exercising often, attending regular yoga classes, being a personal trainer, a fitness enthusiast, a yoga teacher, a vegan, or a health expert does not have a certain size, shape, or color. Stop thinking you can’t really be any of these things just because it’s not what is advertised in a magazine.
Ladies, we need to love and accept ourselves for who we are. Replace judgment with self-love and criticism with self-care. Being body positive is not a trend – it is our new reality and we need to embrace acceptance to keep empowering other women – and all people – to do the same.
4. Stop apologizing for not being in the mood
Sometimes you’re just aren’t in the mood for a little bump and grind. Maybe you have a lot going on in your life . . . maybe you just ate a whole pizza (see #1), or maybe they smell bad. Quit apologizing for not wanting to do it ALL THE TIME. Tell them to take a shower and come back later. It’s your body. Don’t be sorry.
5. Stop apologizing for wearing, or not wearing, makeup
No one needs to know why you decided to sport some falsies for a Vinyasa flow. No one needs to know why you didn’t have time to dry your hair or put on foundation to meet up for a professional or friendly get together. How you look is your choice, and there is no right or wrong way to go about it.
Let’s replace “I’m so sorry, I didn’t have time to put makeup on!” with being ok in not giving any explanation. You do you – and don’t apologize for it. Plus, you’re beautiful no matter what. Do what makes you feel good.
6. Stop apologizing for having an emotional reaction to something
When you have an emotional reaction to something, don’t hold back. If you laugh at something your yoga teacher says, weep as you lay in savasana, or burst into tears during a movie, let it be!
Self-expression is one of the most powerful forms of healing. Too often we feel compelled to apologize for “getting emotional,” but our emotions are valid and we’re allowed to feel and express without needing to apologize for it.
7. Stop apologizing for skipping your workout
Taking a mini break from hitting the gym, your nightly yoga class, your running group, etc. may seem like a strange thing to do when it’s become such an intricate part of your daily routine, but sometimes you just need a rest – mentally and physically.
When you realize enough time has passed and you get back in your typical groove, don’t feel like you need to tell your teacher or your exercise pal how sorry you are that you have been missing in action – it’s your choice and your personal business.
8. Stop apologizing for your complicated order
So you want to be healthy when you go out to eat – how dare you! These days, we are all more aware of how bad the food out there can be for us. Don’t be afraid to ask the server to go light on the butter or if they have gluten free substitutions.
You’re looking out for your health and you should get a pat on the back. And if your food or drink isn’t what you were expecting, send it back. Open your throat chakra and tell them how it is. Maybe the kitchen is unaware that their dinner special tastes like shit.
9. Stop apologizing for saying no
Sometimes, we need to say no to things that we know aren’t serving our highest good. If you feel drained and need an evening of quiet self-care, don’t apologize for declining an invite to go out! You should never apologize for taking care of yourself.
We’re often so quick to do things for other people, but that can lead to us having nothing left to give ourselves. Don’t apologize for doing what you need to feel good, rest, and recharge. Our yes is only as powerful as our no, and we all need to work on developing our “No Muscle.” It’s your business, your life, and your health and wellbeing.
Want to learn how to exercise your no muscle and set healthy boundaries? Self-help author and motivational speaker Iyanla VanZant shares it all in her powerful video
10. Stop apologizing for being confident
When we find ourselves rocking confidence, we tend to receive both positive and negative feedback. This makes us wonder if we should tone it down. But in a day and age where body positivity reigns supreme, all I can say is: be your biggest, baddest, boldest, most beautiful self.
The Takeaway? Stop Apologizing!
Apologizing has its time and place, but choose it wisely, and know the difference between a warranted apology and one that serves as nothing more but a mask for your unnecessary fears or insecurities of what others might think.
Stop apologizing for things like what we listed here. You don’t need to feel bad for doing you – Be yourself, enjoy the ride, and own it!
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